Dating after divorce and child
This group so easily formed a family and lived happily ever after. There are tantrums, power struggles, sleepless nights and runny noses to contend with, so it's important to take things slowly when children are involved.
When and how to introduce the kids to your dating partner and their kids depends on several variables. Think of people you might have known or dated in the past.
Don't use friends for legal advice — meaning, don't hire a friend to handle the divorce even though your friend will cut you a break financially.
My ex and I started out this way, and the friend was truly lovely and magnanimous at heart to want to help two broke people divorce, but we ended up switching counsel (to mediators) for various reasons, which derailed finalizing the divorce.
Age of the children: Kids at different ages present different issues.
This is the fun part and should really be about discovering one another. This is when you've known one another a few months on a more consistent basis and are trying to determine whether this could go further.
The final phase is the "relationship" phase, which occurs when the couple determines that they are fully committed to a long-term situation.
This is the phase in which you should introduce each other to your children, as the kids can feel a sense of permanency and stability.
Children are often left with anxiety about how their parents' dating will change their lives.
Always remember that the courtship phase is for the parents.